Books vs Real Life Somethings Are Only Possible On Paper

    I am a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, I loved the story and loved the hot, sexy chemistry between the characters. The sex scenes opened your imagination up to something you may not have even known about or though about. Here lies the problem since reading the book I have expanded my reading to other books, some along the lines of Fifty Shades and others not so much but still hot to read(I will give you a list later). I started wondering exactly how much of these sexual encounters were actually doable in real life. Yes, we would all want our man to take us in the car after a sexually charged dinner, or in the bathroom of a club or party, even in an elevator. Now how many of these acts are actually possible to pull off. I think we would all, if not some of us would like to have that experience but trying it in real life is completely different.
     Without giving to much information I have had several experiences that seemed like a hot sexy idea but panned out different results that I can not disclose to protect the innocent and injured(my husband would kill me if I  put it in writing but 10+ years later he is still traumatized). I am just saying as ladies we can get caught up in some things but just know there is nothing like the real thing even if he is not ripping off your underwear in the heat of passion. As Christian Grey learned , there is nothing wrong with vanilla love. Now if you still want to experience this type of thrilled at least once in your life, I advise you to move into it with slowly. Dip your big toe in first, wade around a little, and slowly emerge yourself into the deep end.
More to come........

A Cold Winter Night

Let me start by saying, "It is COLD outside!" As I turned my heat up a few more degrees(I can't stand to be cold), I think about all the ways that I could be enjoying this frigid night. First idea coming home stripping down and soaking in a hot bath with a little background music, nothing romantic maybe a little R&B from the 90's to chill to. Throw a little Epsom salt in the water to take away the ache in my joints(cold weather can play some dirty tricks on your body), maybe add a drink or better yet something sweet to indulge in. Just sitting in the tub relaxing and singing along to Mary J Blige, that is a good night.
The second idea would be to come home light the fireplace with a big bowl of soup(Seafood Chowder that would make you drool, or a bowl of mac and cheese, I am hungry right now forgive me). Crawl up on the sofa with the remote in hand and watch a little mindless television to relax and warm up.
The third idea is a hot shower, put on the most comfortable outfit that you have(but not the PJ's, remember my blog No PJ's before 8, I mean that.), light some candles, grab a large cup of hot tea and a good book and enjoy. Bonus points if you have a comfy blanket to wrap yourself in or a Snuggie you are still holding on to(no judgement).
Now as you have read, none of my ideas involved a man, you could always throw one up in the mix if you want but tonight I am feeling like a little me time to warm these bones and yes it is OK to go solo, sometimes we need that. Now if you still got a little chill when you climb into bed tonight feel free to add some additional body heat and anything else to beat the cold winter night.
Stay warm ladies..........................

Resolutions?

   

     How many of you have made resolutions for 2015? At the end of every year women make resolutions to improve themselves in some way. A complete overhaul from the year before, and many of us will not follow through and here is why I believe we don't. When we make resolutions we make them with the pretext that we are flawed in some type of way and must start a new year with a new you. Now, was the old you really that bad? we all could use little tweaks,and adjustments here or there but sometimes our resolutions-which are our feelings about ourselves make it seem as if we have to make ourselves over. Lets try being a little kinder to ourselves and upgrade ourselves instead of tearing ourselves down and rebuilding. We could all use a little upgrading in our lives rather it is a new attitude(stop being a negative Nelly), our clothing style(I have many blogs on this topic-pick one), a new man(we will talk on that topic soon), or a new way of doing things(you can't be a sexy confident woman if you are stuck in the past or in a rut, let go exhale and get to steppin in a better direction). I love myself flaws and all, I use to be and feel insecure and look for ways to make myself better in my eyes, I had to change my thinking of rebuilding myself to what I believe was perfect and just upgrade the me that I am into something more.
     Now, you may be thinking what is the difference? I am who I am for a reason, my creator made me this way for the purpose he has for me in this life, who am I to change that? To upgrade yourself is to take who you are and build on that, it is not a tear down to put the puzzle back together, it is adding additional pieces to the puzzle to make the picture bigger and better. Take a step back and truly look at who you are from the inside out. List all the positive things if you need a visual, then if there is anything you still want to improve for yourself think about how you will "upgrade" yourself, no resolutions just an upgrade. For all those that don't know getting to your sexy is the ultimate upgrade because it brings confidence within yourself that no one can touch. You walk with your head held high, a strut in your step, and a sway in your hips that says I am happy with who I am.

Happy 2015 Ladies!